Does sexual compatibility even exist? In today’s world, it’s normal to come across different people who prioritize physical, emotional, financial, or intellectual compatibility over anything else. The truth is, there are other compatibility types to consider when deciding if a person is right for you in a healthy, romantic relationship. One such type is sexual compatibility. And yes, it does exist.
What is sexual compatibility?
Sexual compatibility is more about individuals striving to attain some sort of balance in their sexual lives with their partners despite their differences. One could say it’s a process where our sexual desires and urges, as well as our libido, are in sync with that of our partners.
What’s sex without your ability to explore?
Getting on with a partner who is at least willing to explore some of your sexual kinks, fantasies, and curiosities is the ideal situation for a satisfying sexual life. Being able to explore your sexual fantasies and those of your partner without shyness or reservation can be the first step to achieving sexual liberation. Perhaps if your partner is interested in exploring something that’s totally off your radar, you can try to reach a compromise. Ideally, partnered sex (as opposed to solo sex) is meant to be pleasurable to all involved parties, so that both of you can achieve sexual satisfaction and a strong sexual bond.
There’s only one answer for ascertaining sexual compatibility between partners. That is the eagerness and readiness to explore each others’ sexual fantasies without reservation. How does one do this--through effective communication.
There will probably always be disparities in sexual desires. Working up the courage to talk about your sexual desires and wants can be difficult. But the alternative is mediocre sex, at best, and who wants that? One might love deep-throat kisses, but their partner might find that appalling. Another might love BDSM, but their partner may be leery of using ropes and chains in the bedroom. This is where effective communication and some willingness to try new things in the bedroom can help you embrace your and your partner's sexual desires and kinks, or at least create a balance that will help keep things spicy.